Brooklyn based creatives Samantha Nzessi and Remoy Philip invite you into their sometimes loud, but necessary banter on masculinity. Hear Samantha and Remoy discuss topics like what masculinity means to our society, has masculinity actually been good to men, or even how the latest movie, TV and sports trends are helping or hurting our society as a whole. Also listen as a variety of guests—experts in the fields of gender studies, activists, or even everyday people like you—stop by the pod to chat on subjects like ‘woke feminism’, queerness or the men's rights movement.
Meet our hosts
Samantha Nzessi is a third-culture kid who owns the fact that she's a food snob. She is fed up with the lack of consideration and empathy that humans show one another and would like to see more equality in her lifetime. She loves artful things, the NBA and her loved ones and still wonders where one can find blackjack tulips this side of the Atlantic.
Remoy Philip is a New York-based creative and co-founder of Theo Media. Remoy believes a constructive, honest conversation about masculinity is long overdue. He is humbled to be a part of this conversation and will shamelessly sneak in as much NBA banter as he can.
Make America Great Again, How the dominant was left behind, with Dr. Michael Kimmel
In Season 2, Samantha and Remoy seek to uncover the systemic character of MASKulinity. They kick off with the illustrious Dr. Michael Kimmel, renowned sociologist and founder of CSMM at Stony Brook University, who drops knowledge about why white men feel left behind, what class has to do with it, how embracing ambiguity is pivotal to social change. He shares a wise insight about the notions 'good man' versus 'real man', and the unexpected place he found hope. All the dopeness can't fit in this description!
What Aziz and Pop Culture are Teaching Us About Sex
In the aftermath of the Aziz Ansari sexual misconduct story, Remoy and Samantha take the opportunity to insightfully talk about our cultural conventions surrounding sex. First, they discuss the Netflix show End of the Fxxking World and how it trailblazes the idea of “changing your mind.” Next they talk about the short story “Cat Person” by Kristen Roupenian and how this story uncomfortably but necessarily forces us to rethink the way we talk about sex and vulnerability. Lastly, Samantha and Remoy delicately unpack the details surrounding the Aziz Ansari story and return back to earlier conversations about consent and entitlement.
What is the impact of having so many men in prison?
In 40 years, the American prison population has increased from 300,000 to 1.6 million. This week, Samantha and Remoy examine the prison industrial complex and cyclical impacts of mass incarceration on men and society. Alejo Rodriguez, who faced incarceration himself before becoming Mentor and Alumni Coordinator at the Prison Reentry Institute, shares his wisdom, weighing in on the intergenerational perpetuation of incarceration, how bullies are rewarded and how men are only allowed to feel anger and pain.
For the preview episode of MASKulinity, we give you a sneak peek of what’s to come! What do Samantha and Remoy have up their sleeve?? What’s society been up to in order to maintain this unattainable persona?
White Supremacy to Google said what?
For the first official episode of MASKulinity, Samantha and Remoy reflect on the events of Charlottesville. #ripheatherheyer and the link between white supremacy and masculinity Remoy catches Samantha off guard with “Tweets of the Day.” Also, apparently the reason why women are less represented in positions of leadership and in the technology field has nothing to do with sexism. No, their brains are just different. Whaaa…!
Men as victims of violent crime
In this episode of MASKulinity, Samantha and Remoy are joined by Yuval Moses a therapist from the Crime Victims Treatment Center in New York, who works with men who have survived various forms of violence. He drops knowledge on his work, and in the process, schools us on what’s needed from society to prevent such a pervasive dynamic.
A look back at this summer
This week, Samantha and Remoy plunge us back into summer news that has yet to have an update. R. Kelly's sex cult of 19 to 22-yr-olds, Betsy DeVos penchant for men's rights on college campuses, Men Against Women in LAPD and even a little interracial romance. Listen as they explore what the MASK has to do with it all.
Man Up! - Young Men Stop Violence Around the World, with Jimmie Briggs
This week, Samantha and Remoy talk to the wondrous Jimmie Briggs, a renowned journalist turned activist who wandered unchartered waters to found The Man Up! Campaign, an organization empowering youth to combat gender-based violence, starting with and going around the world. Jimmie also opens up about his own experience with manhood and maskulinity. He says no one stands a chance fighting violence if men don't keep each other accountable, and he's right. He's just so cool.
Men Got Issues
This week, Samantha and Remoy explore why men fight, actually more like why they think they should at least want to fight; talk about the bravery of 5 men stepping forward to denounce Ed Murray's criminally gross ways and how this could inspire other men to do the same; and finally, address just one more thing that men deal with that we don't talk about: eating disorders. Tune in this week for some insights and conversation about how Men Got Issues.
This week, Samantha and Remoy tackle a long-awaited topic: Single-Sex Education. Is it helpful or does it just reinforce stereotypes about boys and girls?? They are joined by Regine Roy, founder and CEO of Queen Geniuses, and Barry Cooper, formerly High School Dean of Eagle Academy for Young Men, Ocean Hill, and author of a book about successfully co-parenting. These guys make a strong case for single-sex education and it's not at all what Samantha and Remoy think.
A woman’s opinion in a man’s world and what verbal abuse looks like
This week, Samantha and Remoy navigate some hot news items. First, they unpack how ESPN, in trying to censor SportsCenter anchor Jemele Hill’s opinion, validates the worldview that women are inferior. Next, they paint a vivid picture of what actual verbal abuse looks like. And lastly, they look at the tragedy in Las Vegas and come to understand that there are stratifications of privilege and compassion within masculinity.
American Christianity and MASKulinity
West Texas pastor, David Ritchie, joins Samantha and Remoy to explore the complex intersection of Christianity and masculinity. David shares being born into Christianity, seeking out other philosophies and religions, and finally returning to the Faith with greater hope for what it could be. David reflects on how Christianity, in its purest form, is incredibly progressive relative to gender roles. Finally, David speaks to how Christianity has been co-opted for the greater evil instead of the greater good.
Hollywood Validates the Mask in Masculinity
With the Harvey Weinstein scandal looming, Samantha and Remoy take the opportunity to look at the overarching power of Hollywood. First, Remoy illustrates how TV and Movies taught him to take a kiss from a woman. Next, Samantha speaks to the dehumanizing power of the cinematic “male gaze.” Lastly, both Samantha and Remoy dive into the Weinstein story and seek out opportunities for men to be better accountable to one another.
Maskulinity in the 'Hood
Christopher Saunders joins Samantha and Remoy to shed some light on how masculinity has affected the 'hood. Saunders shares eye-opening stories from his childhood, uncovering the way masculinity is tied to survival not just for men but for everyone, and how even though the LGBTQ community is prevalent in the 'hood, masculinity seeks to silence their voice. Finally, Saunders recounts being pulled over and arrested a block away from Times Square, and how that shaped his current journey into criminal justice.
Maskulinity 1 on 1
In the season 1 finale, Samantha and Remoy go “1-on-1” to get to the core of key issues plaguing masculinity. First, Samantha perceptively discerns the difference between enjoying being desired and just being objectified. They tackle the policing of women’s sexuality and explore the predicament of the “nice guy.” Samantha and Remoy address intersections in racism and privilege and how seeing them is everyone’s responsibility. Finally, they recap, give shoutouts and reveal what’s coming up in Season 2.
Bonus Episode! Looking out for men and boys with NextGenMen
Bonus episode! Samantha and Remoy couldn't end the season without talking with Jason Tan de Bibiana from NextGenMen! Jason shares the organization's work, laying out what it looks like to teach young men to be responsible and to speak to those gendered things that they just don't teach in schools about what it's like to grow into a young man. Samantha, Remoy and Jason talk about the future of education, NextGenMen's initiatives working with adults and show a lil appreciation for Canadian artists.